Virtually the entire period of childhood characterized by child moods. You will agree that even the most docile and obedient children act up at times. Psychologists are trying to establish certain “times frills” inherent individual periods of growing up, but our parents are primarily interested in issues related to the causes of such behavior and methods of its correction. I want to say that from their parents to a greater extent on the behavior of their child’s style, and, having understood the vagaries of nature and to understand its proper response, you can restore harmony to his home and raise a balanced child.
So whims – is the active manifestation of anger and rage, accompanied by a child screaming, crying, and various “special effects” in the form of rolling on the floor, stomping his feet, throwing things, kicking, scratching around, and even attempts to hurt himself. These scenes may occur with different duration and intensity.
Addiction to the whims of your baby can be determined by its response to the rejection of anything. Parents often have to protect your baby from harmful conduct their categorical “no”, but if the child is able to achieve the desired with the help of a whim, he will use this method more often. What do the parents in such situations? First of all create the right look at the whims of the child.
Common occurrence or pathology?
Dear Mom and Dad (and their parents, ie grandparents), remember that the caprices – this is an inevitable part of growing up, and there is no “angel” who would never have tantrums.
So even say that the capricious behavior of the individual episodes baby – this is a deviation from the norm – absolutely not correct and even dangerous for the baby. After all, you can impress the crumbs that he – “capricious child” and “crybaby” and the position of the parents must come from an understanding of the formation of a full-fledged personality. Help your child cope with difficulties. Including emotional. Many parents would agree that quite often beyond the norm not acting childish behavior, and lack of parental patience and our confusion in such situations. In order to understand their baby, let’s look at the causes of “attacks capricious.”
The reasons for the vagaries of
It is safe to say there is practically no “innate capricious child.” Often in such desperate actions of the child pushes the environment the baby. The most common cause of children’s whims – is ignoring the needs and the needs of children from their parents, when broken bond mutual parent-children. This age-old problem when we impose their own understanding of love and caring, not listening to “send signals” a child’s soul. And what about the little man, who is not yet right to express or suppress their desires and emotions – the frustration is asking for freedom and results in hysterical whims, hoping to find understanding and support for parents.
This is not to indulge their children. It means to hear a son or daughter before they move to the whims. If from birth to the baby call-signs are responding sympathetic parents, then there is no need to vagaries in itself. But if the kid “notice” only when he cries loudly, there is a need for just such an easy way to attract attention.
The second reason could be the vagaries of “weakness to them” parents. If the “half-hour show” kid ready to buy whatever he may wish to change and any “no” to “can”, then why not use this method again and again. Improper response to the whims may lead to their subsequent repetition.
Properly respond to the whims
According to psychologists, moods hamper the development of the child, and injures the nervous system, so go to measures to minimize children’s whims.
Learn to treat moods:
1. At the beginning of a whim raspahnite for a baby his arms, reassure her love and support and try to switch its attention, to distract. Only taboo – no rewards in exchange for peace.
2. If a kid does not go to reconciliation, leave it alone, do not shout and do not scold him at this point – is the way incite hysteria. Go do something else. Let your child splash emotions, do not take part in “this action.”
3. The most proven method of treatment whims – it’s just calm and quiet. Neglected a few whims bored kid. If you have a whim at the store or public place, simply take the baby in his arms and carried him away, and that he will weep for what you want.
Talks, threats, and notations in senseless whim – baby you just can not hear, he is obsessed with his own experiences. Therefore, when the emotions subside, gently and peacefully talk to the child. Tell him how disappointed you, that he cried and cried. After all, you simply could not fulfill his request, because …. Assure the crumbs that if possible you always follow his wishes and that you believe in the future, you can always negotiate. It should also tell your child that all children sometimes behave so, and if the whim again, you can handle with this situation.